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MINDFULNESS
This is a subject which is so easy to do, once you’ve understood and started practicing it – that it can seem a little difficult to explain. However I will try now.
To begin with you will need to understand the idea of 3 different types of time:
- The Now and Present Moment
- Clock Time
- Psychological Time
The now and present moment is the only time we are ever really in and that would be ever moment we are in, once a moment has happened and been experienced its then in the past
“There are no ordinary moments” – Dan Millman
Clock time is the continuous running of the clock, the seconds running into minutes and hours, then days … weeks, months and years. Clock time is still important for many things such being at work on time, being on time for trains and planes (not that trains and planes always run on time)
Psychological time has 2 sides to it, the past and the future. From the past people can be in the grips of negatives feelings such as depression, sadness, resentment, grievances, bitterness and non-forgiveness. And towards the future people can feel that they experience anxiety, unease, tension, stress, worry and fear.
Things which happened in the past, happened in the past and if there is something that you are hanging on to or that you feel won’t let go, then you need to make a choice. The 3 choices are and maybe depending on the past situation or memory:
- Remove yourself from it
- Change it
- Totally accept it
In as far as the future, it hasn’t happened yet. So using your time, energy and imagination on something which hasn’t happened is not a good use of your time, your energy or your imagination.
Remember that we are only in the present and because we are only ever truly in the present then the past now doesn’t exist and neither does the future.
Being mindful and in the present moment therefore is the only place we will ever be and when things happen I the present which can make us feel negative – angry, resentful, anxious, bitter, start feeling down or worried for whatever reason – that although that will have a cause. The cause will be something within, within your thoughts and feelings or will be something you’ve noticed externally via your senses which will then cause an inner noticed thought or feeling. Basically there will be a feedback loop from inner and outer.
Using mindfulness you become aware of your present moment and the feelings and thoughts you are experiencing and awknowgle them, accept them and embrace them – whatever they may be. You can decide whether you want to:
- Remove yourself from a situation, circumstance or person (or combination).
- Do something to change it
- Totally accept it
All 3 of the above work because you are taking control and ownership of the situation, of as much as you can. Therefore you make a choice to gain control, gaining control of your mind, your thoughts, emotions and the situation.
And remember you’re only ever in the current and present moment. You’re never in the past or future.
If there is something in the past which is real bother and sometimes that can be something you’re not fully aware of or maybe don’t remember the reason why it began, the root cause effectively. If there is a root cause and whether it is known or not it can be a good idea to seek some help in addressing this with the help of a highly trained and skilled therapist. By using a time-line approach you can then access the memory where a problem started and then using hypnosis or NLP (or something similar) be assisted in being able to look, think and feel differently about the original significant emotion event.
Just to state here, with most people there will be very few things which will have such a negative effect on a person and there will be no need to spend any significant amount of time in therapy. For many, many people once you’ve dealt with the major issues the others, the smaller ones won’t seem as bad and in many cases they often resolve themselves.
A question: Would you rather have more confidence or less anxious?
I would describe confidence as situational competence, the better or more competence someone becomes as something then the more competence they will gain and more competent they will become.
Connected to confidence is self-esteem, which I would describe as being more central to the person and how they feel about themselves. And related to self-worth, entitlement, the worthiness and generally how someone feels about and within their own skin.
Anxiety is best described as something which hasn’t happened yet. And just like the future it hasn’t happened, yet. People can use their imaginations very badly and this will need to be put in check. Hypnotherapy, coaching and NLP can also help with this – particularly if there’s something which seems out of control. However again it will typically only one or a small few things which may need some help with – and other things will short themselves out, and mindfulness can help you achieve this.
Mindfulness itself is an easy practice to use and doesn’t take long to master. I can help to get you started and also I can help you to get over the major hurdles and problems.
Please do ask any questions around how mindfulness could help you
For any questions call 07807 540142 or Email today for some guidance with mindfulness
Mindfulness in person and online via Zoom, Skype and Teams
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